#Confusion December 21

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I am pretty sure all of us have circumstances where we suffer from CONFUSION. We mistakenly identify an individual as someone else is a case in point.

We may also be in a conversation with someone who thinks we are some one else. I have one person I am constantly confused with and he experiences the same thing. More on that later.

The look of confusion

Over the past four weeks I have had to deal with people who were either CONFUSED on who I was or even more troubling telling me quite confidentially some facts about myself. Some of the accolades were quite noble but they just were not true.

Here is some of the CONFUSION I have encountered over the past month. I have underlined them.

I have coached their next door neighbor’s son at Wofford. I coached at Winthrop they both are in SC

I listened exclusively to country music all the time. They had me confused with another coach on my staff.

An acquaintance commented on how much he enjoyed our home during a recent holiday tour of houses. The problem was our home has never been part of that tour.

I recovered very quickly from back surgery. Thank god I have never had major back issues.

I ran all those ultra marathons. Once again they thought I was someone else I worked with. I have only run one marathon.

I worked for the NCAA in Indianapolis. I served on committees and went to Indy a lot but was not an employee.

These CONFUSED statements were all first timer statements for me.

It was usually at this point in the conversation that I had to begin the awkward shift to reality of who I was. I had to subtly inform them they were suffering from CONFUSION.

I attempt to be good natured and move the conversation along but sometimes the other person is embarrassed. I understand the embarrassed emotion because I have been on the other end a time or a hundred.

The most common person I get CONFUSED with is John Haskins. Last week I got asked how my wife Kelly was doing. That just happens to be John’s wife. My wife is Mira.

(l-r) John Haskins and Dan Kenney

We both are tall, we both coached college basketball at UNC Pembroke, we both wear bucket hats when we play golf (John can play golf I play at it), we both go to the same church, but we are not the same person.

For the record I consider John a great friend so any CONFUSION that I am anything like him is a compliment.

Coach4aday

My purpose in life is to coach. I am a former collegiate basketball coach, director of athletics, and chief of staff. I worked at four NCAA Division I & II universities during my career. At each campus I learned timeless lessons on teamwork and leadership. Today my passion is coaching others on what it takes to lead, serve, and succeed.

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